Dear Annie: I have a dear friend who lives nearby, but for some reason, he will not contact me. We grew up together, and a year ago, I helped him, his wife and his dogs out after Hurricane Irma knocked out electricity at their home.
He has never really thanked me, and he never calls me. And I refuse to call him.
What could be the problem? He may not be the good friend I thought he was. Why is he like that? — Puzzled in South Florida
Dear Puzzled: Though it would be an interesting superpower if we could read minds, we never truly know what is going on inside someone else’s head. We can only communicate with someone and ask. Your refusal to call your friend or reach out is the missing piece to your puzzle. If you call him and he blows you off, then your suspicions will be confirmed and you can write him off as a friend. If you call him and invite him over for a friendly get-together and he accepts and the two of you have a great time, then you know that he is in fact a friend.
Dear Annie: This is in response to the letter from “Handshake Hater,” the woman who said she’s disgusted whenever men try to shake hands with her. Needless to say, her letter was appalling. Why doesn’t she wear sterile gloves or nice cloth ones if she’s so afraid of germs? Even the queen is courteous enough to shake hands with anyone. — Pastor Ron
Dear Pastor Ron: You’re not the only person who wrote in suggesting gloves for “Handshake Hater.” There’s certainly no harm in being more like the queen.