When you truly care and respect others
Many students in China understand the value of American education and thousands of Chinese students apply every year to the top American schools. The majority of students in China also have great respect for their teachers and it’s because of that reason I enjoy being in their company.
If we are honest with ourselves, we all want and need to feel valued for who we are and recognized for our contributions and accomplishments, which is especially true for teachers. It’s important for us to know that we have made a difference in someone’s life. If a person takes the time to express their heartfelt appreciation for something we have done, it boosts our spirit, passion, and purpose. It builds our self-confidence, self-esteem and our entire self-image. It gives us energy and motivation to work harder and do more. When you give people a sincere compliment, words of encouragement or just a warm smile, you are making their world a better place. You are making them feel appreciated and valuable. In China, that sort of recognition and feeling of accomplishment is greater than monetary rewards.
I have found that when teachers express their approval or gratitude for something students have done, they not only enhance their students’ lives, but they enrich their own lives as well. Teachers feel more fulfilled when they have done something to make someone else’s life better.
One of the laws of the universe states that what you give you get in return. It costs little or nothing and it almost always follows suit that most people will demonstrate their gratitude for what you do.
My students all have dreams to make great monetary gains in life, but I like to remind them that the most precious things, cannot, be built by hand, bought or sold by man. They can only be experienced through a wondrous soul and shared from one heart to the other.
When you show interest in others by noticing the good things they’ve done, they will be drawn to you like a magnet. It will accelerate the relationship-building process and enhance their overall impression of you. When a teacher accentuates all that is positive within their student, they, in turn, accentuate all that is positive within themselves.
When you show your appreciation to others, their respect for you will grow and so will your influence as a teacher. Students will absolutely prefer to work harder for the teacher they like and trust and who show an interest in them.
In China, it’s a free form of currency. Teachers will do more for recognition than they will for money.
If you are in a teaching position, remember that students will work harder and do more if they know they will be recognized for their accomplishments. Show them you care, and they will be loyal to you and you will see a huge improvement in their academic performance.
It has also been proven that if parents show an interest in their child’s education, their child will also take a greater interest in their schoolwork. If parents lack interest in how their children are performing in school their children will not recognize the value of getting a decent education.
I have found that respect is vital for a student’s overall education. When you truly care and respect others, you will find that others will truly care and respect you. When a teacher takes the extra time to reach a struggling student, it is perceived as an act of kindness.
I once told my students that long after their old lesson plans are forgotten it will be the simple, kind acts of your teachers that you will remember well into your old age and that is perhaps your teacher’s greatest legacy.