Thanksgiving — giving thanks — we get it. At best, it’s well-worn — at worst, cliche.

And yet, at the same time, the concept of gratitude itself is frequently only paid lip service.

It’s a time for list articles citing what the writer is thankful for; a time for reminders to hold loved ones dear on the brighter side — and memento mori on the darker.

Truly holding gratitude is something else. It can shift attitude and worldviews.

Thanksgiving is, in many ways, a selfish holiday — at least how it’s marketed: “I want to give thanks for XYZ.”

Gratitude isn’t giving thanks.

It’s feeling thankful, and that distinction is valuable. Gratitude is adjacent to love, and who doesn’t need more of that in their lives, especially in 2024?

This year, when sitting around the table with your loved ones — if you’re fortunate enough to have those — contemplate this. And instead of saying that you’re thankful, try feeling it.

It might make your whole day better — even arguing with the in-laws.